We Invited My Husband’s Friend into Our Home, and Now She Wants to Destroy Our Marriage

Andrea, a loyal reader at 35, recently reached out to us for the first time seeking advice. She never imagined she’d be in such a difficult situation, needing guidance herself.

Andrea has shared her story with us.

Andrea wrote, “Hello! I need your readers’ advice on a serious issue. My husband, Paul, 43, and I have a stable and happy relationship. He has a close female friend, Miranda, they’ve known each other for over 15 years. I’ve never felt threatened by their friendship, as it was purely platonic. Miranda, a successful businesswoman, recently experienced a major personal setback. This is when problems began for my family.”

Paul and Andrea welcomed Miranda in their house very warmly.

Andrea continues, “Two months ago, Miranda went through a painful and scandalous divorce after nine years of marriage. Her husband had cheated on her multiple times and was very narcissistic and toxic. Miranda suffered a lot for the past three years before finally deciding to leave him. During the divorce process, she discovered more shocking things about her ex, making the experience even more heartbreaking.

Feeling sympathetic, Paul and I decided to offer Miranda a place to stay in our home until she could get back on her feet. She gratefully accepted and seemed sweet at first. But once she settled in, things took a turn for the worse.

From day one, she began criticizing everything I did. She refused to eat my cooking, reacting as if I had served her rotten food. Although I’m not the world’s best cook, Paul and our friends usually enjoy my meals. Miranda’s behavior seemed to stem from stress, but it only got worse. She started cleaning our house demonstratively, claiming it was dirty and disgusting. I was hurt and angry because I’ve never been untidy. Paul stayed diplomatic, asking me to be patient with her, which I tried, but my patience was wearing thin.”

Miranda went too far in her annoying behavior.

Andrea shared, “Recently, Miranda caused a huge scandal between me and Paul. I was visiting my parents for half a day, leaving Miranda and Paul alone at home. When I returned, I saw something that made me feel sick to my stomach. Miranda was cooking in our kitchen, wearing revealing lingerie. Paul was sitting there, talking to her as if nothing was out of the ordinary, and I could sense a spark between them. It was disgusting.”

“I demanded to know what was going on, and Paul brushed it off, saying they were just chatting. Miranda then told me that if I didn’t like her outfit, I didn’t understand femininity and that I should spend more time on myself because I ’looked like a neglected housewife.’ That was the last straw. I told her to pack her things and leave immediately. But my husband’s reaction was what really killed me. He said I should listen to Miranda, insisting that her advice would help me fight my insecurities and become a better person. We had a huge argument, probably the worst in our entire marriage.”

Andrea is frustrated about the whole situation, but she made a decision that she will stand by.

The woman shared, “I was utterly devastated that my husband didn’t protect me from the vile behavior of this truly awful woman. I believe he should have prioritized his family over his friendship, no matter how valuable it was to him. Despite the pain, I didn’t let the situation break me. Instead, I decided to take a small revenge on my husband and his unpleasant friend.”

“I plan to invite one of my close friends, a man, to stay with us for a month. He will act exactly as Miranda did during her stay, to make Paul understand how unacceptable his indifference was and how wrong it was to disregard my feelings and let this woman belittle me in my own home. I want to teach him a lesson and show him the impact of his actions. However, I’m concerned that this could completely destroy our marriage. I feel deeply hurt and am unsure of what to do. What should I do?”

What would you advise the author of this letter? Share your recommendations in the comments.

Experience shows that inviting friends into your home isn’t always the best decision. Sometimes it can turn into a full-blown scandal, and this story is another example of that.