I Accidentally Found Out My Husband Is Married to Another Woman, But It Appeared to Be Not the Worst

A 35-year-old woman revealed on Reddit how a simple Facebook post exposed her husband’s double life. The shocking discovery from an online moms’ group shattered her illusion of a happy family, leaving her devastated. Her heartfelt story drew an outpouring of sympathy and reactions from readers.

A desperate woman turned to a Reddit community to share her unprecedented story.

A woman, 35, who went under a nickname ThrowraFacebook12, has turned to people of Reddit to share her mind-boggling family case, that brought her a lot of pain and resulted in the total collapse of her small and cozy world.

The woman opened her post, saying, “My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have two children together.”

“He travels often. I also want to say that about 8 months ago I discovered that I was infected with an incurable STD. He blamed me for this, saying that I was the unfaithful one.”

But this was only the beginning of the OP’s misfortunes. The full blast came out of nowhere, while she was reading through the posts in some advice-related group for moms.

The OP made a mind-blowing discovery about her husband.

The woman wrote, [edited], “I was browsing a moms’ group where women ask for advice with kids and stuff. One mother shared that she would give her husband a laxative tea so he wouldn’t go to a soccer game the next day.”

Coming across such a post is something that would definitely provoke a desire to comment on the situation, or at least read what other people have to say. The OP did exactly this: she started reading the comments.

The woman shared, [edited], “It was all mockery and laughter in the comments and then, to my shock, I saw a profile that had a photo of a woman with my husband.” The woman could never have imagined that her interest in reading the comments would lead to such an astonishing find.

The OP goes on with her story, saying, “I started watching, and apparently they got married civilly, my husband created another profile but has a different name and surname. I think that child has his false last name because she uploaded a post when she went to register the child’s birth certificate and placed the full name there as if she were proud of it.”

The OP decided to react to the situation immediately.

The desperate woman shared, “I posted it in the same group (now that they give the option to post anonymously), several gave me advice, and we deduced that possibly the other lady didn’t know because of what she shared on her profile.”

The OP decided to dig for the truth and confronted her husband’s mistress.

She shared, “I wrote to her and was surprised that she did know that he was married. They have been married for 2 years and their baby is approximately 14 months old. Although they are not technically married, their marriage is not valid.”

The OP’s peaceful and happy life turned into a mess, because of one innocent post.

The OP wrote, “I hired a lawyer, I took all the evidence, and I am in the divorce process, since when I complained he preferred her, he left the house to live with her.”

But this wasn’t even all, as the OP shared, not hiding her true emotions anymore. She wrote, “Besides, he refuses to give alimony, claiming that he has another child to support, and that if he has to give alimony to my children, he will seek the minimum payment even if he has to quit his job.”

The woman sincerely wanted a piece of advice, as she appeared in a really tough situation and needed help, desperately. She asked, “How do I proceed with my life? I think I feel very limited in rebuilding my life because of the STD and my children.”

People of Reddit were quick with their opinions and some even shared their own experience.

• He’s going to learn real quick that he is required to support his children just as much as she is. My husband were in and out of court with his ex because she thought she was within her rights to work only part time. The judge didn’t go with her only working 10 hours per week and impugned her income to reflect what she should be earning and then calculated the child support. The fact that this AH went off and had another family while still married won’t go well for him. © Digjam823 / Reddit
• If it is legal where you are, start recording your conversations and phone calls with him without him knowing. If you had proof that he is threatening to quit his job to avoid his financial responsibilities to you and your children, the judge will most likely order him to pay. I don’t how it works where you are but a Firefighter I worked went down to part-time to try to get out of paying child support and was arrested twice for non payment of child support. He tried to use the argument about having another family to support, the judge garnished his wages so that the children from his first marriage received the ordered child support before he saw a dime of his paycheck. He soon went back up to full time and even started to work overtime. © Valkyriesride1 / Reddit
• Let the lawyers handle everything. This guy is a scumbag. Don’t be scared about having an STD and dating! If you look online there is even specific websites for dating for people with STD’s. It’s very common and nothing you should be ashamed of. There’s a whole community of people out there that share your same struggle. © throwaway_trashbin5 / Reddit

Even before a partner becomes an ex, they can create drama and chaos in your life. That’s why it’s crucial to recognize the signs of infidelity early and take steps to protect yourself from such heartbreak.