I Was Done Being a Free Babysitter on Vacation, So I Gave My Son and His Wife a Reality Check

Many grandparents cherish the chance to bond with their grandchildren on vacation. But what happens when that quality time turns into an unpaid babysitting service? That’s exactly what happened to one of our readers. Her daughter invited her on a family trip, only for her to discover she was expected to watch the kids full-time while her daughter and son-in-law enjoyed a carefree getaway.

Our reader sent us her story:

Here are some our advices.

• Set Boundaries Early
  Don’t feel guilty about saying no. Communicate your needs clearly from the start to avoid resentment and protect your well-being.
• Prioritize Self-Care
  Choosing a solo retreat wasn’t selfish—it was necessary. Taking care of yourself helps you stay balanced and present for others.

• Learn to Say “No”
  Psychologically, people often feel they need to please others at the expense of their own happiness. Saying no can be hard, but it protects your time and energy. Practice it, and you’ll feel more in control of your life.
• Embrace Independence
  Your solo trip reminded you that independence matters. Enjoying time alone helps you stay true to yourself and your happiness.

This grandma made her point loud and clear: vacations should be fun for everyone, not just the parents. While she loves her grandchildren, she’s not a free babysitter—and her daughter-in-law won’t forget that lesson anytime soon.