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I Was Shocked and Humiliated after My Friends’ Husbands Request
Friends make life better by giving us support and helping us feel less lonely, happier, and more satisfied. But not all friendships are good. Some can be harmful and even toxic. Toxic friends can show themselves in different ways, sometimes even in small requests.
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Thank you for reaching out to us! We understand how frustrating this situation is, and we’re here to help you.
Check if your friendship actually toxic.
Everyone has good and bad days, and on a bad day, kindness might be harder to come by, even with loved ones. How can you tell the difference between a toxic friend and someone just having a rough time? Here are some signs of a toxic friend.
- Put you down: Occasional teasing is normal, but constant demeaning remarks and making you feel miserable indicate an unhealthy friendship.
- Gossip: Slipping up occasionally is human, but consistently spreading your secrets shows a lack of care for your feelings.
- Insincere apologies: When they dismiss your feelings with a flippant “Sorry” or a defensive “but,” they show they don’t truly care about how their actions affect you.
- Make you feel nervous: If their unpredictable behavior causes harm or feels abusive, it’s wise to be cautious.
- Leave you unsettled: If spending time with them leaves you feeling uneasy or relieved when it ends, examine the friendship for other red flags.
- Compare you to others: Good friends appreciate your unique traits and won’t compare you to others or use peer pressure to change you.
- Always put themselves first: Fair-weather friends show up only when things are good or they need something. They dominate conversations and rarely show interest in your struggles.
How to deal with it.
Realizing you’re in a toxic friendship can be tough, but here are steps you can take:
Talk it out: If you want to salvage the friendship, try explaining how their behavior affects you using “I” statements. Set clear boundaries for the future.
Consider ending it: If the friendship no longer benefits you or becomes abusive, ending it might be necessary. Not everyone is willing to change, even if they promise to.
Take space: Taking a break can give you clarity. See how you feel without them and whether things improve.
Set boundaries: If you decide to continue the friendship, establish clear boundaries. Communicate what behaviors you won’t tolerate and how they impact you.
Ending a toxic friendship can be really hard. It’s okay to ask for help and make a hard decision whether to fix the friendship or move on. It is important to remember, prioritizing your well-being is crucial in any relationship.
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