My Husband Cheated on Me and Even Brought His Mistress’s Baby to Our Home

Realizing that your spouse has been unfaithful is a devastating experience that completely destroys the trust and commitment at the core of a relationship. In a case shared by a Reddit user, the situation was even more gut-wrenching.

She disclosed what happened.

My (F53) soon-to-be ex-husband Roger (47), whom I forgave for his affair, came home with a baby four months ago. His girlfriend (22) could not handle it anymore and brought the baby to him at work and left. To the best of his knowledge, she is in Spain. I allowed him to stay, so long as I didn’t have to do anything. Anything.

Well, about a month ago, Roger had a heart attack. It didn’t kill him, more the pity, but he is very weak and incapable of doing anything for himself. Since he isn’t up and about, he cannot care for his child. He also cannot drop off and pick up his son at daycare.

I have been helping, but I’m done. My kids are full-grown. I shouldn’t be having grandkids any time soon. I do not have any desire to care for a baby.

I told Roger that I wanted a divorce, and I contacted the mother’s parents. I know the father through friends. I said they had until Friday to come get their grandchild, or I was calling Child Protective Services. They just left with the baby. But they scolded me for being so cold towards a baby that had done me no harm. I view that child differently.

Roger is recovering and I will be moving out. The house is in his name, but I have never contributed to it. I have the equivalent of twenty-two years of rent and interest put away. And as per our prenup, my savings are my own. I work, and I don’t need anything out of this marriage except myself.

My kids tried telling me to stay and help their father. I said that they were welcome to come over and help him with cleaning himself and the baby. Both declined what I felt was a fair offer.

I do not feel that I am acting badly. However, Roger, our children, his child’s family, and a few mutual friends think I am. Perhaps writing this out and seeing the responses will give me clarity.

People supported her.

• Yes, the child is innocent, but that’s not on you. Also, AFFAIR BABY. Anyone who gives you shit about that doesn’t know what they’re talking about. The other parents can be as cold as they want; they should aim that feeling at their daughter for giving the kid up. © soxfan10 / Reddit
• No one is upset at the real mom who took off for Spain, leaving her kid? It seems like all the hostility is being misdirected toward you, who got dumped on more than once. You are doing the right thing. At some point, mom is more than likely going to show back up, and want the kid and money to support it. Get away from that man as fast as you can. © Global_Walrus1672 / Reddit
• If they all feel so strongly about the child, they can come to take care of it. I don’t think that was a fair expectation on you. © Foolish5678 / Reddit

• Laughing at your kids telling you to stay and take care of him and the baby, but when you offered them the same deal, they declined. Because, of course, they did. I’m sorry you are dealing with all this and wish you the best in your new life. Hugs. © JustNKayce / Reddit
• Basically, everybody is trying to dump their responsibilities on you. The baby should be with the family. You’re not cold to not want to care. It’s weird they wouldn’t want to take the kid in any way. Poor child... Your grown kids can take care of their dad. When he cheated, your relationship ended, and he’s not your problem anymore. © Smooth_Papaya_1839 / Reddit
• The child is innocent, and you didn’t mistreat him. You took care of him when your husband got sick, and then you found a solution for him. You didn’t call CPS the moment your ex got sick. I’m sorry you were betrayed this way. I’m also sorry for this poor child. © TwinZylander214 / Reddit

Facing the truth about her husband’s affair and the child he fathered at home compelled her to make tough choices. Though the pain of betrayal may linger, this experience has imparted invaluable lessons on self-value, setting boundaries, and the significance of being among people who truly honor and cherish her.