My Daughter-in-Law’s Demands Are Insulting, and I’m Absolutely Furious

Young women often reach out to us with complaints about their mothers-in-law. Today, however, we received a message from a mother-in-law who shared her daughter-in-law's offensive behavior. Yet, our readers sided with the daughter-in-law.

Here is Jenna’s letter:

We decided to find out what our readers think about this situation, and the majority sided with the daughter-in-law.

• When you get married, your wife should become the most important person in your life. You might cost him his marriage. © Deon Peens / Facebook
• Lesson learned: when your son gets married, don’t pay for the wedding or buy him a house. Keep the money to do whatever you have not done in your early life. When you give too much and expect things in return, you’ll get disappointed. © Dinh Huong / Facebook
• As a Mom to a Mom. He is married, this is now his family, it is his duty and job to put them first. Step back and all will run smoothly. Also, snip the apron string. © Mary Shannon / Facebook
• When a child grows up and gets married, their spouse is their new family/priority. They must make decisions with that person. Parents can offer advice if asked, but decisions belong to their new spouse and them, whether good decisions or bad decisions.
  Always call before going to anyone’s house No one wants unannounced visits. Showing unannounced makes them stop what they are doing, stay home, and entertain you. That’s disrespectful.
  Distance or not, don’t assume you can stay at anyone’s house, family or friend. They can invite, or you can ask in advance, but you don’t live there.
  New moms are always nervous about their babies. Although I might feel it’s unfair, I can't tell new parents what to do with their child and who can babysit. The best I can do is offer support and be available. Parents need to make their own decisions for their own children.
  In this story, I can see the parents being overbearing and controlling. They may feel entitled because they paid for the wedding and house. That a gift with strings, not a gift of love.
  In this case, the new mom is correct in setting up boundaries. © Teresa Osburn / Facebook

What do you think? Who is right in this situation?

Here’s another story about a mother-in-law who taught her cunning daughter-in-law a lesson.