My Friend Uninvited Me from her baby Shower, but What She Asked After Left Me Speechless

Friendship is supposed to be built on trust, loyalty, and kindness—but sometimes it all unravels in the most unexpected ways. One woman learned this the hard way when her friend blindsided her by uninviting her from a baby shower at the very last moment. What followed wasn’t just hurt feelings, but a storm of drama, resentment, and a reaction that shook their friendship to the core.

“Two weeks ago, I got invited to a baby shower from a friend I haven’t seen in years. She moved to another state but had apparently moved back and was now having her baby shower here. I was so excited since I hadn’t seen her in so long. She started a group with all the mutuals she invited and disclosed that this was gonna be a quick and small one since she had just found out she was pregnant when she was 35 weeks with an induction scheduled on her 37th week.

We all started volunteering to be responsible for different things for the baby shower. I said I’d cook Filipino food and help pay for some of the decor. I sent money to the friend who was in charge of decorating. I asked the mom-to-be how many people were invited besides the ladies in the group chat. She told me 15.

There were 10 of us in the group, so I thought I’d cook for 50 people to be on the safe side, just in case she invited a few more. I started shopping for ingredients. I started prepping and coordinating with the decor lady. We figured out where we wanted the food and grazing table and told the mother-to-be. She approved.”

“Before her baby shower, I spent the whole day cooking. I took the day off (I only work part-time since I’m the primary caretaker for my baby while my partner works). Mind you, I had to arrange for my mother-in-law to watch my baby while I did all the cooking and for me to go to the baby shower. I didn’t want to bring my baby since I would be busy with the catering. It was by luck she was off those days.

Then the night before the baby shower, she messaged me that she had to ‘make some hard decisions’ and had to uninvite me but still ‘wanted’ me to drop off the food. I told her I understood and respected her decision, but I would not be dropping off the food. She asked me why, and I told her it wouldn’t make any sense for me to drive 75 minutes to drop off food to an event I was no longer invited to. The only reason I volunteered was because I was invited. She asked me how she was gonna find someone to cater on such short notice and that it was hateful of me.

A few friends sided with her, while most sided with me. I want to know from a stranger’s perspective if I’m the bad person here.”

People in comments expressed their support.

• She probably had to make another hard decision and either pay someone or go shopping and prepare her own party. © Gennevieve1 / Reddit
• I’d charge her catering and delivery prices. She already asked about where to hire a caterer. © Darryl_Lict / Reddit
• Don’t forget to include the cost of a sitter you would have had to pay to watch your baby if your MIL wasn’t miraculously off those 2 days! © BeautifulBanian / Reddit
• Invite everyone siding with you to come over to your place instead of the baby shower to enjoy your food, especially since your “friend” won’t have any food at her shower anyway. Problem solved! © elguapo1996 / Reddit
• She never intended to invite OP. She planned this whole thing and made a fake invite to get the free food delivered. I wouldn’t be surprised if she intended the OP to bring everything and then serve and clean up. Share the DM with everyone showing this fake friend. And no matter what, absolutely do not deliver any food! © maybeCheri / Reddit

At the end of the day, it wasn’t just about a baby shower — it was about respect, honesty, and how easily a bond can break when one person stops valuing the other. Sometimes the biggest betrayals don’t come from strangers, but from the people we thought would always be on our side.