9 Positive Parenting Tips | Useful Tips for Parents
Being a parent is one of the hardest tasks any person is ever given to handle. No one knows how to behave the perfect way towards their child and which behavior can be harmful instead of helpful. That’s because no one is born with having the knowledge of how to be an amazing parent, if that is even possible. The only way for parents to be the best version of themselves is through continuous studying and listening to their kids’ needs.
Reading will help parents recognize their kids’ emotions and act upon them. Their parenting practices can be modified based on what the kid is feeling and how their behavior in and out of the house is like. Not all tips can be applied to every single kid around the world, since their character can be completely different. And maybe that’s why parenting is such a hard job that not all people would be able to do successfully.
1. How to instill empathy in children from an early age.
Narcissists care little about what others feel or think — they only are concerned about themselves and their own desires and feelings. That’s why it’s necessary for your child to understand and learn what empathy is. Understanding other people and really feeling compassion are very useful elements for their emotional and social development. Remember that you are their first role model, so you’ll have to set an example with your everyday actions.
2. Yelling doesn’t work.
- Children often like to copy their parents, so we should model their behavior and actions by teaching them to be calm. If they throw a tantrum and you start yelling at them, that’s what will become normal to them. So, instead, show them a different way to deal with their emotions.
- Bad behavior or a bad attitude is often due to hunger, so if you and your child are outside, carrying snacks with you might save you a potential tantrum and keep your child in a good mood.
3. Explain things in detail to them.
- “Because I said so” is not a good reason to give to a child when they ask you why they shouldn’t do something. Always try to communicate with them and explain to them what might happen if they are misbehaving and why they shouldn’t do certain things. Make them aware of the natural consequences their actions might have, so they can learn and make better decisions for themselves later.
- It is normal for brothers and sisters to be jealous of each other. Hence, the term “sibling rivalry.” To find a way around this phenomenon, Kim Kardashian came up with a genius trick. As she breastfed baby Saint, she would hide a milk box with a straw in her bra for her elder daughter North.
- A lot of kids are picky eaters. They select their meals based on color, texture, and presentation before even trying them. This is how Sarah Michelle Gellar came up with a clever solution to end food waste at home. She made her children pay, from their allowance, for the food they asked for but didn’t eat.
4. Help them develop a sense of responsibility.
Narcissistic people don’t usually take responsibility for their actions and their consequences, especially if these are negative. This is where your parenting needs to come in and avoid this type of behavior. It is vital to teach your children from their own mistakes or bad behavior, by explaining to them why what they did was wrong and help them take responsibility for their mistakes and mitigate this characteristic of narcissists.
5. Create a home routine they have to follow and reward them for it.
Help them develop a good routine like no TV after a certain time, helping with the dishes, brushing their teeth, and going to bed at an appropriate time. And if you want to get creative, you could draw up a board for the month. Tell them that if they follow their routine for the whole month (or 1 or 2 weeks) they could get some kind of reward of their choosing.
6. Celebrate their daily achievements.
It can happen that we are so immersed in our daily activities that we lose sight of our children’s achievements. It is important to keep in mind that the youngest members of our family need our attention and recognition every time they achieve a goal. We are not talking about huge achievements, like winning a soccer tournament or becoming the champion of a math competition, we are talking about smaller accomplishments, like finishing a homework assignment on their own or brushing their teeth properly. If we are there to celebrate this progress, we will help them improve their self-esteem.
7. Kids need their parents to make sense of things, not make them feel better.
When your child feels lonely and confused about what is happening in their surroundings, it can cause behavioral damage and dysregulation. That’s why it’s important to put your child in the know when things around them are changing.
You don’t need to tell your child everything specifically, but simply talk it out to “validate their perceptions and then share details based on their age.” This can make them feel emotionally secure in their unpleasant circumstances.
8. Respect and honor your child’s tears.
If you tell your child that they should stop crying, then they might cry even more and think that they should be fine by force, causing them to develop self-doubt and anxiety in the long run.
When your child cries, it’s important to let them know that the pain they are experiencing is accepted. Crying is an indication of emotions, and if parents neglect their child’s feelings, this may ruin their self-confidence. Shedding some tears is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of, but rather, an occurrence that should be respected and honored.
9. Try to ask for their opinions and solutions to problems.
Ask them if there is a problem or if something is bothering them, if there is something wrong and they tell you what it is, sit down with them and discuss it. Try to ask for their opinions and thoughts on what they think they should do to fix a problem. If they don’t have an answer help them out a bit, but remember, it’s important to make them feel like they are solving their problem and it’s important to congratulate them and encourage them.
1. Some advice from famous parents.
- Blake Lively enjoys the idea of placing a comment box at home, like the ones we always find at restaurants and hotels. This way, her kids have a way to place their suggestions anonymously about what they like, what they don’t, and what improvement they want to see in the household.
- To make the mission of raising the second child easier than raising the first, Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis got their baby a robot crib to help their son get a good night’s sleep. According to the couple, the special crib is incredible. The louder the child cries, the faster it responds and puts the child back to sleep.
- According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, sometimes kids can misbehave because they are bored or don’t know any better. So, finding them something to do, specifically something to keep them engaged and entertained, could redirect their attention to something good rather than naughty.
- There are still methods of discipline that psychologists find appropriate.
- Time-out: Isolate the child from the situation for a couple of minutes and let him or her cool down and think about it. Then, you can patiently discuss the situation and explain why it was bad.
- Take away a privilege: Don’t let them watch a cartoon for one day or eat candy.
2. Stories from other parents.
- I just yelled, “1, 2, 3 mommy is lava!” and my kids ran away, leaving me to drink my coffee in peace. I’m pretty sure I’ve peaked for the day. sarabellab123 / twitter
- I’ve convinced our 8-yo that I hate the sound of the vacuum so now she vacuums whenever she’s mad at me. AnnieMcCarren / twitter
- Weekend parenting hack
1) Tell your kids to stay in bed until a certain time
2) Set their clock back an hour
3) Enjoy an extra hour of sleep FatherWithTwins / twitter
- When punishing your kids, don’t take away their electronics. Take away their charger and watch the fear in their eyes as they use it less and less while the battery slowly dies. LadyRed_6 / twitter
3. A few tips for everyday practical issues that your back will appreciate.
- If you’re carrying the baby in a front carrier, pull them up as high as possible. Make sure that the baby is also very close to you, which means that the carrier should be tightened. This will reduce the strain on your back.
When your child starts to weigh around 20 pounds, switch to wearing them on your back. If they get too heavy, but you continue wearing them on your front, it can cause lower back pain.
- If you’re breastfeeding, sit in a chair that provides you with good back support. Instead of leaning over to reach the baby’s mouth, bring their mouth up to you. You can use pillows or blankets to prop up the baby and bring them closer to your chest.
- When you put your baby in or take them out of a high chair, remove the tray. That way, you won’t have to strain to try to place your baby in the narrow space between the tray and the back of the chair. You also won’t have to lift the baby up and over the tray.
- It might seem easier and more comfortable to hold your baby on one hip. However, when you put the weight of your child on just one side of your body, it can create an imbalance and lead to back problems.vThat’s why it’s better to hold your child against your chest and support them with both hands.
- Car seats are heavy, so don’t try to put them in the car with the baby already in the seat. Instead, secure the seat first, and only then place the baby inside. Don’t stand outside when you’re putting your baby in the car seat. Because the safest seat for them is in the middle, you can sit down on one of the side seats with your baby in your lap, and then place them in the baby seat.
Do you have any other useful parenting tips that can help parents communicate their messages without being too harsh? We would love to hear your suggestions that might be useful to other parents.