7 Reasons Why It’s Better to Divorce Than To Continue Living in an Unhappy Marriage

Psychology
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Divorce is a decisive step, and coping with it is difficult. Many couples live for years in quarrels and dissatisfaction, postponing the decision to divorce for various reasons. However, as research shows, divorce in such cases becomes the best option for both partners and their children. And here’s why.

You can devote your energy to your own personal growth.

If you stay in an unhealthy marriage for a long time, your emotional well-being is always at stake. This numbing pain can give you the feeling that you’ve started to lose yourself.

Do you remember your old hobbies or the things that used to bring you pleasure a long time ago? Does your spouse support your decisions and worldview? Do you enjoy your life at the moment? If your answers are “no,” perhaps it’s time to make some changes in your personal life.

It turns out that a bad marriage may keep you from doing the things in life that you want to do or having the things in life that you deserve. So after a divorce, you can finally stop putting all of your energy into a relationship that no longer works and use it for other important areas of your life.

Your health might improve.

Most people believe that marriage can boost your health, but in the case of a bad marriage, this doesn’t work at all. On the contrary, an unhappy, conflict-riddled marriage can be worse for you health-wise than being single or happily married.

Studies confirm that living in a hostile home can be as physically damaging as chronic work stress. So if you still haven’t broken up with your wife or husband who is not your “better half,” remember that you have an increased risk for heart disease, cancer, arthritis, diabetes, and a weaker immune system. Moreover, even small cuts and wounds on your skin will heal 40% slower.

You’ll have a better chance to meet “the right one.”

When you’re married, you unconsciously try to stay away from the opposite sex, in order to not make your partner jealous. This way, you miss out on a lot of opportunities and great people you can make friends with. This is not a bad thing when you’re happily married. But if you feel that your marriage has become suffocating, a divorce can help you clear the way to meet the right partner in the future.

After an unsuccessful marriage, you have a lot of experience that can open the door for you to fall in love again and find the right person to spend the rest of your life with. In fact, some studies show that people who remarry are less likely to get divorced because this time you know yourself better and you’re sure of what you’re looking for in your significant other.

You’ll feel happier.

When you get out of a bad marriage, you may lose a spouse but you actually gain happiness instead. Life is too short to waste it on contradictory people and unhealthy relationships. And if you feel that your marriage is only making you feel unfulfilled and unhappy, it’s definitely time to go.

Of course, divorce might be a shock to you at first, but later you’ll be able to turn this page and open up a new chapter in your life that could be much more amazing than the previous one. In fact, some research shows that both men and women feel happier for up to 5 years following the end of their marriages because they feel more content with their lives.

Your kids will be happier too.

Many couples realize that they are unhappy and still decide to stay married “for their children’s sake.” But this is a really bad idea. Your children can hear your sarcasm and arguments and may constantly feel stressed out by the tension in your unhappy marriage. Don’t forget the golden rule — a happy parent means a happy child.

Your children will be able to build a happy personal life.

Divorcing from an unhealthy marriage, especially when children are involved, can serve as a beneficial lesson for them. It can instill the values of self-respect, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing personal well-being in relationships.

Often, couples in unhappy marriages overlook the impact on their children’s happiness. Witnessing a parent’s dissatisfaction in marriage can lead to confusion about what healthy relationships should look like. It’s crucial for children to learn about compromise and respect, but constant exposure to unhappy relationships can create fear or reluctance towards marriage in the future.

You can lose weight.

Even if you don’t intend to go on a diet or start Botox-ing everything after a divorce, you may still notice some unexpected changes in your look. Lots of people admit that they powerfully transformed from the inside because they started feeling better and more alive. And as their inner self started blossoming, their outer appearance slowly transformed for the better too.

What’s more, after a great life transition like a divorce, most people tend to change their outside on purpose — they start working out, buy new clothes, update their makeup, and so on. These changes also help improve their self-confidence and their sense of well-being.

However, divorce is always a difficult path. And sometimes, for those around, a couple’s decision to part ways can be even more shocking than for the spouses themselves. Here are the most unexpected celebrity divorces that rocked everyone in 2023.

Please note: This article was updated in April 2022 to correct source material and factual inaccuracies.
Illustrated by Leisan Gabidullina for Now I've Seen Everything

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