8 Red Flags Clearly Indicating an Unhealthy Relationship

A relationship is a long-term collaborative effort. But if one partner is slacking off, it won’t work out. Here are some clear signs that a couple’s relationship might be struggling.

They idealize their partner.

It’s easier to idealize your partner when there’s limited interaction and less face-to-face communication. When that happens, once you 2 are reunited, you’re likely to feel disappointed with how flawed your partner actually is. Some couples in long-distance relationships break up after being reunited because they think their partners are demanding or expecting too much. To avoid this, it is advisable to keep in mind that your partner is just a human being with flaws.

They try to change you and your habits.

Both of you may have certain traits that you don’t love about each other. And in fake relationships, your partner will probably want to change the things that they don’t like about you. Basically, they ask you to sacrifice your own self so you can please them and their needs. They put themselves above you and your connection, and if you don’t follow their demands, you will be in deep trouble.

You’re not their priority.

Chances are your partner cancels your plans way too often, citing cheap excuses. They might also profess their sadness over this and how it’s “not in their hands” to control the situation. While canceling plans here and there is normal, when this behavior continues for way too long, then maybe you’re not enough of a priority to them.

It’s not about doing crazy activities or going on joint excursions with your friends, but about creating deep roots. So if they ask you to go on a long hike or to the beach together, they’re trying to spend some quality time with you. They might even rearrange their entire schedule if that’s what they need to do to see you.

They profess their love more on social media and around friends than they do in private.

Posting picture after picture on Instagram showcasing what a great couple you are is a massive sign of insecurity. Additionally, if your partner is only nice and attentive to you when you’re out with friends, then that should be a red flag. Their affection shouldn’t stop when you’re home alone. So if the loving gestures stop and the silence begins behind closed doors, then your partner likes to put on an “affection show” for society to see.

It’s highly possible that your partner measures their happiness by the level of success of your relationship. So if people online comment on what a great couple you are, this is translated into happiness for them. And they think of your relationship as successful for as long as your online presence is perceived positively.

Your conversations are drier than the Sahara Desert.

A healthy, deep relationship requires both partners to be open to talking about themselves and the world around them. However, your partner doesn’t start a conversation unless they need something from you. And even when you try to initiate a discussion, they seem completely uninterested in what you say. There is absolutely no progression in subjects, and even the topics you touch on are super boring and short.

They don’t work with you to find solutions to problems.

Conflicts and disagreements are common in relationships, and work from both partners is required to resolve them. You both need to accept your responsibilities and meet somewhere in the middle. However, your partner isn’t interested in doing any of that, and they just walk away, waiting for the storm to calm down. They simply don’t care about listening to your worries.

Not only that, but they seem like they don’t care about your feelings and how they might have hurt you. A loving partner should be concerned about you and how their actions affect you negatively. You shouldn’t be poking to get a response that doesn’t solve anything.

They don’t make future plans with you.

In a deep and meaningful relationship, the topic of your future should arise sooner or later — not only about having kids or getting married but about simple things, such as future trips and meeting each other’s families. If your partner seems uninterested in having such a conversation with you, they probably have commitment issues. Or maybe they haven’t even thought about it, which may also be a bad sign.

They sleep in a cramped bed.

Spouses should sleep separately or on a very wide bed for their mental and physical health, to get good sleep, and for a healthy environment in the family. Scientists studying sleep problems have found that 30-40% of couples sleep in different beds. And that’s actually good because poor quality sleep can lead to divorce. Therefore, if you want to keep your relationship strong, make sure you sleep well.

Here are the signs of strong couples with healthy relationships that will last for years.