I Accidentally Cheated on My Wife, and Her “Revenge” Left Me Astonished
Infidelity is a profoundly distressing ordeal for any couple. When one partner strays, the other is faced with the difficult decision of whether to forgive and rebuild or to bring the relationship to an end. Our focus today is on a man who, having cheated on his wife once, believed that their family had overcome the ordeal. However, his wife’s subsequent actions have left him grappling with the uncertainty of how to navigate their family life.
A man found himself in a rather whimsical situation.
An anonymous 32-year-old man recently took to Reddit to reveal a significant challenge in his family life. “I cheated on my wife 3 years ago. We have been married for 5 years, and in the second year of our marriage, I cheated on her with a random woman,” he disclosed.
The man explains that his wife had managed to forgive him for his previous affair, and together they attended marriage counseling to strengthen their relationship after such a challenging period. He stated, “She forgave me, and we went to marriage counseling. However, just 3 days ago, while my wife was in the shower, I went through her phone and found texts confirming she was cheating.”
This shattered him, both as a man and as a husband, and he expressed profound feelings of betrayal. Confronting his wife after she emerged from the shower, she shockingly justified her affairs, claiming they were acceptable because of his past infidelity, setting a precedent for tolerance.
The man’s discovery absolutely shocked him.
Despite the man’s efforts to explain that his own transgression was a one-time lapse, and he hadn’t engaged in any further affairs since, his wife insisted on her newfound relationship with another man. The intensity of her reaction left him in a state of panic as she angrily left for work, and he hasn’t seen her since. He admitted being certain that she’s now with the other man, causing him deep emotional pain. While acknowledging a sense of deserving the situation, on the other hand, he expressed a strong desire to reconcile with his wife.
People’s advice and opinions on the entire situation varied widely.
The post has garnered over 5,000 comments, and users were genuinely taken aback by the entire situation. One user commented, “She didn’t forgive you. She just stopped talking about it.” Another individual shared their personal experience, stating, “I was with my ex for 7 years, and we constantly fought about the same things over and over. He would cheat on me, lie, disrespect me — honestly a whole slew of issues and then get mad at me for ’not letting things go’ or ’holding things over his head’ anytime I wanted to discuss it or express frustration.”
Many users sided with the wife, asserting that regardless of the reasons behind the husband’s affair, she had the right to retaliate. One person shared, “Truth right here, she never forgave you — when my ex cheated on me, I went and did it back, (2 wrongs don’t make it right). Then it became toxic, we just started doing anything we could to hurt each other. I became numb, and when I finally said enough and got out of that relationship, he was all surprised and so was everyone else we knew — I had already gone through all the emotions of a break-up while I was still inside of whatever that was. I no longer felt anything for us.”
Meanwhile, another woman devised a distinctive method to ascertain whether her boyfriend was cheating on her, and it involved using a tampon.