I Told My Stepmom to Leave My Wedding, and What She Did on the Big Day Shocked Me

We received an emotional letter from our reader Louisa, whose big day was ruined. What’s more, her relationship with half of her family has been shattered. And much of the blame falls on Louisa herself. Here is her story.

This is Louisa’s letter:

Here’s what readers think about this situation.

• She got precisely what she asked for. She’s lucky her dad didn’t just tell her to find another venue for her wedding. She is definitely the ah! © Tracy Gross-Fisher / Facebook
• That’s her house as well. That’s your dad’s wife, you show respect. Your mom and stepmom can be adults and be civilized as such. If I was your dad, I would’ve told you to have your wedding somewhere else. © Niki Palmer / Facebook
• I think the person who wrote this needs to get over herself. It’s not YOUR house, if your father wants to live with someone, then the person he is sharing a roof with gets to call that house HER home. If the person who wrote this and/or her mother can’t handle the new person in the man’s life, at the very least find another venue. Shame on her for putting her father in such a horrible position. Our hearts are big enough to love unconditionally without having to choose. Don’t make dad choose between his partner and his daughter. Impossible for him, and nothing but hurt on either side. © Kimberly Fontecchio Walton / Facebook
• Yes your mother should move on he did, and you can’t change what happened karma got back to you, I’m speaking as an ex who was so in love with him but learned to let go and accepted his girlfriend for my adult children sake we are family. © Donna Moseley Manthe / Facebook
• The advice following didn’t even begin to touch on the OP’s error, or discuss empathy or taking responsibility. “Communicate with your father about how much his absence hurt you” without “try to understand his perspective and how your decision hurt him...” © Jessika Diamond / Facebook

Here’s another story about a woman who said, “My husband moved out for a few weeks, claiming our newborn was ’too loud’ — so I taught him a lesson.”