Sandra Bullock Became a Mom at 45, and She Liked Her New Life so Much That She Had a Second Child at 51
The Miss Congeniality star has continued to churn out hits in Hollywood, but being a parent is her top priority. ‘Family Is What You Fight for, Family Is What You Protect,’ she said. Her story is an inspiration to many women. Sandra Bullock showed by her example that being a mom doesn’t depend on age or having a husband.
The dream of being a mom.
As a proud mother of 2 children, Sandra Bullock shares that she actually wanted to be a mom at a very young age: “So I kind of felt the drive and the desire to.” But it never happened this way because her mother did everything to make Sandra’s life memorable for many of us instead and not let her become a parent that early.
Sandra reveals that the maternal instinct was always a part of her: “I would have been pregnant or knocked up at 17. My mother knew that and she kept me under lock and key.”
Instead, with her mother’s help, Sandra created an enormously successful career and became the world’s highest-paid actress in 2010 and 2014. But her real-life role as a mother came to her through the adoption that happened in 2010. Sandra Bullock became the single mother of baby Louis.
First child.
In one interview, Sandra had a very emotional conversation. She was asked if she had any doubts about being a single mother at the age of 41. Sandra confessed that the impact of Hurricane Katrina had convinced her to adopt children: “I did think, ’Maybe not.’ Then [Hurricane] Katrina happened. I’m going to cry ... Katrina happened in New Orleans and something told me, ’My child is there.’ It was weird.”
It was especially difficult to make this decision because she is always in the spotlight and her life is being constantly judged by the public. But even her divorce with Jesse James didn’t stop Sandra from going through with the adoption process: “He fit in the crook of my arm. He looked me in the eyes. He was wise. My child was wise.”
But during this whole process of searching, finding her baby wasn’t easy and Sandra was questioning whether she’d ever become a mother: “The perfect child will find you. You will find your child. But you don’t believe that when it’s not happening. When you’re going, ’Where is my family?’”
Second child.
In the same interview, Bullock shared what happened during the exact moment that she started to think about adoption for a second time. During a dinner conversation between Sandra and her girlfriends, who were discussing their daughters, 3-year-old Louis came and said: “Yeah, I don’t have daughters. But I’m going to have a baby soon.”
Sandra thinks that Louis already knew something and it was exactly around the time when her future daughter, named Laila, was born. It was like a puzzle that matched. Bullock announced in December 2015 that she had adopted her second child, Laila.
Sandra Bullock feels that her family is finally complete.
It was a long way to motherhood, but Sandra finally feels complete. She feels that this is what she was made for, but still, there are no other plans to adopt more kids: “No, I think this is it. But everyone keeps saying, ‘Never say never,’ so I’ll say, ‘No, I think our family is complete.”
She took a career break for the kids.
Being a single mom while building a career is not an easy task. So in 2022 Sandra decided to take a break. “Because of my job I have to go away for long chunks during the day. I take them everywhere, but that’s a 15-hour day and then you come home and if you’re producing you’re on calls,” she said. “They miss you.”
Motherhood gave meaning to the actress’ life.
Sandra, who became a mom after 40 years, admits the decision turned her life upside down. But she made it at the right time, when she was ready for a change. “I needed to grow up,” she said. “I know who I am. I know what I’m not. I’m always growing, but I don’t feel that I’m angry going, ’I’m missing out on life because I have [kids].’ No.”
She went on, “I look at my life before my kids and I don’t want to say it felt like a waste of time, it just felt like I was rushing to a destination that didn’t exist. Now I’m here and I don’t want to be anywhere else.”
There is no wrong age to become a parent. What is more important is the inner readiness for this responsibility. Susan Sarandon, Eva Longoria and Nicole Kidman all had children after the age of 40. And they see motherhood at that age as an advantage.