After Realizing How Much I Make, My Husband Vented His Fury on My Teenage Daughter

Most people keep secrets from their partners, even though they vowed to be completely honest. Sometimes these secrets are minor, but occasionally they can lead to family breakdowns. Here’s a letter from our reader Lorraine.

This is Lorraine’s letter:

We decided to find out what people think about this situation, and their opinions are divided.

• When there is mistrust and deception in a marriage. Nothing good will ever come. Secrets and lies will have that result. Nothing wrong with being in control of what is yours for better management. But hiding it is a deception, and you shouldn’t continue with a partner you don’t trust. Or even like because you too are deceiving. © Maria Solinas / Facebook
• You are dirty for expecting your daughter’s stepdad to pay for her. So, hope that raise was worth it. © Allison Marie / Facebook
• You were deceitful and he responded childishly. Wasn’t the daughter’s fault. Should have been forthcoming in the first place. All could have been avoided. © Joe Awe / Facebook
• It’s obvious he’s controlling, or you would not have omitted the truth of what you were doing, and his reaction is proof of his nature, by all rights he never missed money he didn’t know about and the reason you felt you had to do this for your daughter is reason enough for him to be pleased that you were taking responsibility for her education, you can’t fix him, but you can fix yours and you daughters future without him, when he married you he took on both you & your daughters welfare please leave him... © Ages Page / Facebook

• What you did to safe money for your daughter was not wrong but what you did by refusing your husband’s demand to pay all the years of rent was not fair, because you got promotion and having been more salary but never told about it to him So please think again and again by improving your attitude to make your relation in family closer. © Drs Rusjdan Mps / Facebook
• I would handle this by handing him divorce papers and changing the locks. Oh, and take away anything that she bought him. Even if it was a gift © Carmozina Vieira-Sweeney / Facebook
• I feel that she was dead WRONG in what she did, but that was between husband and wife. For him to be able to treat a child that way speaks to the character of his heart, and I could never see myself feeling okay with him around my child again. For me, that would be a dealbreaker. © Barbara Walker Swann / Facebook
• Her clothes and beauty products are old and used. He can keep them. If he’s being that petty, divorce him, pack your stuff and get your own place. You’re making double, so you can afford it. Daughter needs to apply for FAFSA. If the man is depending on the woman to pay his bills and take care of him, what does she need him for? © Cynthia Kyriakopoulos / Facebook

Here’s the story of another woman who revealed her true income to her husband, leading to the end of their marriage.