I (26) Decided to Leave My Girlfriend (76) Because She Secretly Posted Her Bikini Photos

3 months ago

26-year-old John shared with us his not easy one situation. He is mulling over his nearly five-year relationship with Sarah, who is 76. The cause for this contemplation arises from Sarah’s recent penchant for posting bikini pictures on social media. Yet, the crux of the matter isn’t the bikinis themselves; rather, it’s the feeling of betrayal gnawing at John.

They had an agreement on not posting revealing pics.

In the early stages of their relationship, John used to occasionally post pictures of his artwork on social media. However, Sarah felt uncomfortable with this and asked him to stop. John respected her feelings and stopped sharing any more pictures of his artwork.

In exchange, John communicated his desire to Sarah not to post bikini pictures, a request she agreed to honor. Despite John’s limited social media usage, he had never explored other platforms beyond the ones he occasionally used (only Twitter, actually).

Consequently, he was unaware of Sarah’s bikini posts on these platforms.

A few days ago, while spending quality time with his girlfriend Sarah, John stumbled upon an unexpected revelation. Sarah happened to be scrolling through TikTok when a photo of her in a bikini caught John’s eye. Initially taken aback, John wondered if it was an old picture. However, the image lingered in his mind, prompting him to download TikTok on his phone later that day to investigate further.

Much to his dismay, when John searched for Sarah’s profile, he found several recent bikini pictures and a couple of provocative posts. It left him feeling angry and frustrated, especially considering their agreement not to share such images. What made it even more hurtful was the fact that Sarah had been so vocal about respecting her wishes regarding his artwork, yet she seemed to have no qualms about disregarding his feelings when it came to her own posts.

Now their relationship is facing a major question mark.

«I installed these apps specifically for this reason and found her page and looked through that. She had been constantly posting pictures of herself in bikini. I was absolutely livid. This was the one thing that we agreed on and she still managed to break the agreement not only once but she has been doing it continuously knowing that I won’t see them. Ever since that night, I have been giving her cold shoulder and I briefly explained to her why I was upset and I stopped replying to her,» shared John.

She seems to be emotionally shattered by this. Today, she sent pictures of herself, looking visibly distressed. John, feeling overwhelmed by the ongoing tension, is even considering breaking up with her.

People’s advices.

People in comments were pretty much the same opinion, advising to break up.

  • Probably best to break up with her. I’d probably explain the reason too so that she isn’t left wondering or hoping there is a chance to get back with you. Based on your story, I’d write something like: I am breaking up with you, I found out that throughout our relationship you have been posting bikini pictures. Although that is your right to do, we also set boundaries we both agreed to on me posting gym pictures, and you were posting bikini pictures. You have been lying to me this whole time while you post bikini and TikTok videos. This isn’t something I can work though as it shouldn’t have happened in the first place. It is not something an apology will fix, as it shouldn’t have happened in the first place. Every picture you posted since we agreed to these boundaries as been a lie to me, it has been broken trust, it has been disrespect to me, and our relationship. If you wanted to change the boundaries we set, we could have spoken about it, you chose to go behind my back, knowing I don’t have Instagram or TikTok to ever find out. I cannot forgive that. Right now I need space, so I will be blocking you, please do not try to contact me. © EntertainingTuesday / Reddit
  • If you’re done, just tell her you’re done and no longer wish to be with her. If she insists on a reason keep it simple, you do not feel compatible, and leave it at that. It’s not your responsibility to teach her anything, and she will not learn in any case. She will just argue. © idleigloo / Reddit
  • Specifically crossed a boundary you set with her betraying your trust, and it seems like now she is trying to manipulate you. You deserve better. © ohWombats / Reddit

Our advices.

John doesn’t know if it is genuine or if it is some kind of manipulation. And here’s what we think:

  • Reflect on your own feelings: Before anything else, take some quiet moments to sit with your emotions. It’s natural to feel a whirlwind of conflicting feelings in situations like these. Ask yourself why you’re considering ending things, and really dig deep into your heart for the answers. Understanding your own emotions is the first step towards clarity and making the right decision.
  • Communicate openly and honestly: When you’re ready, have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend. Share your feelings openly, even if they’re difficult to articulate. Be honest about your doubts and concerns, but also be open to hearing her side of the story. True resolution can only come from honest communication and understanding each other’s perspectives.
  • Prioritize your well-being: In the midst of all this emotional turmoil, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Your emotional health matters just as much as anyone else’s. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a step back and focus on your own needs for a while. Sometimes, a little self-care can go a long way towards finding clarity and peace of mind.

Relationships require effort and communication to thrive. It’s wonderful when people in a couple seek tips on how to be a good partner, as this shows a commitment to making the relationship successful.

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