My Husband and My In-Laws Wanted Me to Pay for Them. My Response Shocked Everyone

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Family is the people who support you in difficult situations, such as after the death of a loved one. But when it comes to money, some relatives show their true colors, wanting to grab a piece of the pie. This is what happened to this woman, who shared her story on Reddit.

Here is how the story went: "I recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a separate account as I still haven’t decided what to do with it and I didn’t want it to go to waste.

I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me to pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks.

Recently, my husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate a holiday. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table. My husband’s mom joked about paying for dinner out of my «inheritance pocket» which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.

He got back at 3 a.m yelling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they relied on me to pay for their food and thought I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong. He said I humiliated him and his family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I’m gonna say.

He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn’t have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner."

Other Reddit users supported the author and left almost 6k comments. Here are some of them:

  • So let me get this straight. Your mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is «great, now she can pay for everything». © RichSignal7022 / Reddit
  • A divorce attorney may be a wise investment since hubby showed his true colors. Instead of suggesting they spend the money on buying a house or rental property or put away for retirement he wants her to blow the money away ever since she got it. Good for her keeping it separate talk to a financial advisor and maybe a divorce or probate attorney so that the inheritance is properly kept as a separate asset and not commingled into marital property. © Unknown author / Reddit
  • Do not pay for anything jointly owned with inheritance. Your husband & his family are showing their true colors. I doubt they will stop thinking above it how to spend your money. Put it in trust and invest for your future, not theirs. © No-Train8518 / Reddit
  • Their expectations are what caused the problem. For some reason, they’re somehow feeling entitled to YOUR inheritance. That is weird, unless you have discussed it with either hubby or in-laws, which it doesn’t sound like you did. The family was wrong to place blame on anyone other than the people who felt entitled to your inheritance. Maybe take a little bit of your money and spend a weekend alone in a nice hotel near the beach, lake, mountains, wherever you feel comfortable and do some soul-searching. I personally would not want to continue associating with people who feel entitled and then blame you for their own erroneous expectations. © SageGreen98 / Reddit
  • Most likely, your husband’s family expected you to pay because he led them to that conclusion or at least didn’t correct them. You handled it perfectly. © classicgirl1990 / Reddit

Relationships in marriage are not always simple. Sometimes the only way out is divorce, and sometimes the situation is resolved differently. Like with this woman who found someone else’s tampon and suspected her husband of cheating.

Preview photo credit MirandaAddison13 / Reddit


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