My Parents Treated Me Unfairly and Never Expected Such Revenge From Me

Rebelling against parents doesn’t end in adolescence for many people. Here is the story of a woman who, at 25, stood up to her parents because of childhood grievances. Now, she doubts whether she did the right thing.

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• You tried reasoning with them for years but was respectful of their rules while in their house despite the sexism. Mom just decided she should be all involved with the wedding planning with no actual invite from you to do so or to visit for a week. With one, admittedly petty move, you have reworked the power dynamic of the relationship. Mom now knows you will be in charge of her own life. Petty? Yes. Mature? Not really. Effective? Boy howdy, yes! When people are reasonable, communication and compromise are key to a good relationship. When they are steamrolling hypocrites? One petty power move does wonders to keep them from trampling your boundaries. © digitydigitydoo / Reddit
• Maybe they thought you’re getting pregnant would have been a bigger issue than your brothers getting their girlfriends pregnant, since the boys could avoid being involved with the possible child? Which would be a backwards way of thinking, but I know people who think like that. © leeeeechy / Reddit
• You actually treated them better than they did you and your fiancé. After all, they aren’t even engaged and you let stepdad sleep over. The fact your mom can’t even own her mistake and just say “my bad” or something is telling. It’s high time she learns you’re an adult, and she can’t just force you into submission. © 311Tatertots / Reddit
• As a parent, I think what you did was amazing. I hate the “good for thee but not me” attitude. Your mother is pissed because she knows she’s wrong. Hopefully (but incredibly doubtful) she’s rethinking her treatment of you compared to how she treated your brothers. Do not back down from your stance. Keep reminding how unfair she’s been to you when she throws a fit about it. Hopefully you update us about her response to you. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. © Beautiful_mistakes / Reddit
• Although I think I’m biased because my parents did the same thing to me. My brothers who were partiers were allowed to have girls over. Me, who was the “good” kid that got good grades, my boyfriend wasn’t even allowed in the house. Being raised by misogynists is awful! © ohiseeyouhaveacat / Reddit

Even relationships with parents sometimes go through difficult phases. And relationships with in-laws can be even more challenging. Here is the story of a young woman who was excluded from a family dinner by her in-laws.