30+ People Who Are Unapologetic About Being Single Explain the Reasons

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By 2060, half of the European population will be single, recent research has shown. Being single nowadays is a path many people choose to take and are very conscious of deciding so. Maybe it’s their hectic schedules that don’t leave enough time to invest in a partner or maybe their unwillingness to make sacrifices. We are about to find out the various reasons why people have chosen the single life.

  • No longer being forced to hangout with their friends. Rude_Attorney_9428 / Reddit
  • I don’t have to worry about what I look like or what I’m wearing while I’m just chilling on my days off. Hair up in a messy bun, no makeup, no pants, no problem. not-a-real_username / Reddit
  • Because when I date someone it feels like all we do is decide what we’re having for lunch and then decide what we’re having for dinner. I also like to do what I like to do without negotiating. And nothing is better than waking up alone. trans-positivity-BOT / Reddit
  • Relationships these days are so dramatic. Not to mention no one understands my anxiety. I can’t meet your parents without shaking from anxiety. You can’t propose to me in front of my family; that’s awkward. I can’t go out to eat with you or I’ll get sick. Don’t cook for me because you might have put a dairy product in it and I’m lactose intolerant. We can’t go to the movies because loud noises scare me. I don’t want to listen to your music because it sucks. I could go on. cudambercam13 / Reddit
  • Wanna watch a movie? I pick what I want and don’t have to debate what we’re both in the mood for, or whose turn it is to pick, or “I don’t like scary movies, let’s watch a rom-com!” Wanna get something to eat? I go get what sounds good to me and don’t have to hem and haw for an hour over what sounds good to you but not to me, then me but not you, and then finally settle on something that neither of us really wants but we can both deal with when all I want in this world is sushi. Wanna sleep till noon on my day off then get up and just play video games all afternoon? My choice and mine alone and nobody can try to shame me for it, or complain that I’m not paying attention to them. Having an off day and don’t feel like talking at all or expressing my feelings? I don’t have to talk to anyone or feel pressured to “open up” to them because we’re dating. DomLite / Reddit
  • You don’t have to remember trivial dates, buy extra gifts during holidays or for specific people, no need to justify my purchases, share food, or even decide on food. UBootCaptain / Reddit
  • Flirting is soooo much fun. Plus the possibility of being in a new relationship is something to look forward to! It’s fantastic. F22man / Reddit
  • I have been single most of my adult life and I find it really annoying when I am living with a partner. I had a partner who snored and that really affected me with the lack of sleep I was getting. You get set in your ways then all of a sudden you have someone wanting you to do a whole bunch of things another way. I don’t necessarily prefer to be single, but I prefer to live on my own. 11015h4d0wR34lm / Reddit
  • These days I find that I get apathetic in relationships. So much of the relationship is spent over texting or Facebook to “make it look good”, but it bores me. Females like that seem to be attracted to me, but relationships like that bore me. I need face to face time more than anything. arejhayy / Reddit
  • Got off work at an indecent hour? I don’t have to sneak into bed and then have an awkward conversation that I’m too tired to have when I wake them up and they ask what time it is, and why I’m so late, and what kept me, and how was my day, when the only thing I want to do is close my eyes and rest. DomLite / Reddit
  • I’m not a huge fan of the single life, but in the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I always felt like I needed to check my phone 24/7. I like being able to just chill and play video games, watch a movie, or hang out with friends without checking my phone constantly. RealECW / Reddit
  • I have so many hobbies. When I was in a relationship I couldn’t do any of them. I even had a hard time making time for school work. Now that I’m out of a relationship, I’ve been playing music, painting, coding, etc. Literally today I finished designing and making the wooden case for some headphones I’m making. artisnotdefined / Reddit
  • My apartment is clean and neat and most importantly, 95% empty. TheCrimsonChariot / Reddit
  • Learned to love myself without needing anyone else’s words of affirmation after being single for the first time in a few years. FinalTourist / Reddit
  • Nobody eatin up all the jerky. Don’t gotta worry about the driveway. Nobody scriblin on my Garfield book. Ok-Guitar3946 / Reddit
  • You can bite the inside of your cheek subconsciously without stressing about whether it will heal before your next make out sesh. allmirrornob*** / Reddit
  • I don’t want to take into account someone else’s wants and needs when making life decisions. maraca101 / Reddit
  • I collect hockey cards so if I want to spend $200 on something I really want, its my decision and mine only. If I want to stay up until 2am playing Destiny 2, grinding with my buddies, its on me. I dont have to worry about going to bed with someone. xWALKERx27x / Reddit
  • As someone who got out of a 3-year-long relationship about 4 months ago, I would say one of the biggest things that makes me happy about being single is being able to see myself clearly again, you don’t realize how much being in a relationship can blind you to how you’ve changed, or how love can numb you to certain things. When I got out of that relationship and once the initial crying and being depressed phase ended, I slowly realized how much happier I was and how much I’ve changed, some of it good and some bad, but it was like being able to see myself through a clear lens and not through a distorted one. mercury111111111 / Reddit
  • Call me selfish, but I like the freedom to wake up and go to sleep when I want to, to decorate and organize my home (that I bought and paid off on my own) as I like, to make my plans and schedule as I see fit, to watch/read/play whatever I want, to buy and wear whatever I want, to cook and eat whatever I want (and not have to share), and to make long term financial and career goals without having to worry about it conflicting with someone else’s. kokoromelody / Reddit
  • I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want. I can also leave something on the table and come back two weeks later and it is still there. GoatSculpture / Reddit
  • The only things stressing me are my own stressors. I don’t have to help support someone else through theirs. 01kaj10 / Reddit
  • I learned who I am after I decided to stop dating. It’s been 4 years being single, and I really love who I’ve become. I was able to establish myself, my goals, and who I want to be. kylo_drew / Reddit
  • Well, it’s a bit of a mixed bag for me and I oscillate between being content in my bachelor status and wishing I had companionship, but when I’m in that zen state I’d have to say the biggest pros are: *Not having to deal with drama *Not having to be responsible for someone else’s happiness/entertainment *Having a quiet apartment to myself after a bad day at work when I wouldn’t want to talk to anyone *Having the freedom to spend my time exactly how I want to. StriderShizard / Reddit
  • I never want to turn the key in the door and have to worry about what is going on, on the other side again. I don’t want to have to manage another’s emotions or walk on eggshells. I love the peace that my space is mine alone. I also hate the obligations that tend to come with relationships. I don’t want to attend other people’s events, or buy presents for in-laws, etc. Basically, I’m selfish. UnfeelingSelfishGirl / Reddit
  • I don’t have to spend Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with his family, alternating each year. 2TheTrain / Reddit
  • I have a queen bed and I can use one half to sleep and the other half for books and my Nintendo switch. My bed is the best nightstand for all my books when I’m too lazy to get up on weekends. No one is there that I have to move stuff over for so they can sleep. © Amazing_Ratio_7968 / Reddit
  • I can save money. Other than rent, utilities, and gas I only spent $50 on food in the past 3 months. suitology / Reddit
  • No drama over where to spend the holidays. hostess_cupcake / Reddit
  • I can talk to myself aloud and it won’t seem weird to anyone. If someone else is around when you talk to yourself, you’re a nutcase, but if no one hears you, it’s fine. KadTheHunter / Reddit
  • I can do whatever I want and not feel guilty about spending time with no one. Dawulf187falke / Reddit
  • When I put something down somewhere in the house / on the property it stays right where I put it. whatifisaid / Reddit
  • I’ve never met a woman who’s content with doing nothing and being at home all day, plus I have very close female friends who I love and that’s always been a problem. bzaroworld / Reddit
  • There is no fighting over the thermostat, no juggling bathroom schedules. My one-car garage is mine, and all the blankets on the bed are mine too. Dinner is always what I want. So is lunch and breakfast. I wake up when my alarm goes off, not when someone else’s does. Nobody else’s phone wakes me up either. I don’t have to share my phone, or computer. What I want to watch is always the choice. The only messes in the house are my fault. Or the cats’. But I brought the cats in, so still mine. Fantismal / Reddit

Are you single and if you are, why have you chosen not to find a partner? What is the best thing about being single, in your opinion?

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