Dad Kicked Me Out after He Found Out I’m Not His Biological Child

Imagine growing up in a loving home, only to discover one day that your parents aren’t who you thought they were. For one Reddit user, this became a reality when her father disowned her after learning she was the product of her mother’s affair. Years later, after healing from the pain, he returned to “make things right,” but she chose to pay him back instead.

A woman came to Reddit and shared her heartbreaking story.

One woman, whose name is unknown, has recently turned to Reddit and shared her mind-stirring story, that left a footprint in the hearts of many users.

She started her post, saying, "So let's get into it, I guess. Almost a decade ago, my dad found out that my mom cheated on him with another guy years ago through my mother's sister. Back then my mom and aunt weren't in good terms so she told dad everything."

"My parents fought over this and dad filled for divorce. We all got DNA tested and out of 3 children, I was the only one who wasn't his. It felt so bad to know that your dad who raised you for almost 16 years wasn't really your dad. That didn't feel as bad as him kicking me out of his house when I was begging him not to."

The woman suffered from her dad’s decision.

The desperate woman recalled, “I wished I would no longer be alive when he disowned me. My mom went into a depressive state and would just spend all day in bed and would just get out to use the toilet. My grandparents lived in a different state, but they did everything they could to make our lives better. I needed to come home from school, do all the chores in the house and tend to my mom and check on her. I did everything that could possibly be done to make sure we lived.”

The woman added, “I would ask my mom who my real dad was, but all I got was screaming or a hit. My siblings and grandparents from dad’s side tried to make things right between me and dad, but he wouldn’t budge. Apparently I was just a reminder that mom cheated on him and nothing else.”

Her dad's rejection affected the woman's life immensely.

The lady recalls with bitterness, “I remember my 17th birthday, when no one remembered that it was my birthday. I cried to the point where I didn’t have any tears left. Even when I graduated from high school, only my grandmother came. Why didn’t my feelings matter to anyone? Why was I supposed to endure this?”

The young woman felt like things couldn’t just go on like they were and made a decision. She wrote, “After I returned from my graduation I told mom that I was leaving if she doesn’t tell me who my real dad is, and this time she did tell me who he was. I met him, after finding where he lived. I discovered that I have a half brother and that my real father was a widower and a doctor.”

“He didn’t know that I existed or the fact that mom was married. It took us time, but we built a bond, and he helped to get through college, and he walked me down the aisle. He even got mom some help, and I am forever grateful to him.”

When her “dad” showed up, the OP didn’t hesitate to pay him back for his betrayal.

The woman wrote, "Well present time me I (26 f) was married to my lovely fiancé last week and I didn't invite my ex dad to my wedding. He suddenly tried to contact me before the wedding, but I don't want anything to do with him. My siblings and grandparents from ex dad's side say I am wrong and that he wanted to come and make things right, but I don't want to make things right."

The lady explained, "He had the right to abandon me, so I have a right to do the same. He isn't my father. He was once upon a time but not now. I understand that he was hurt, but I was hurt too. Everyone tells me to let go of the grudge, but I just don't want him in my life and no, I won't give him another chance."

"My husband understands, but no one else seems to understand what I had to go through to get to where I am now. He cannot just come to my life 9 and a half years later and expect things to be alright. Am I a bad person?"

People in comments were totally on woman’s side, talking about forgiveness and true family bonds.

• Why do people always choose someone else's wedding for their big moment of regret, and wanting to make it their stage for forgiveness? That's just downright self-absorbed, he had years before then to come out and say "If you can find it in your heart to forgive me I will be grateful but I know I'm not entitled to your forgiveness. Let me work for it and prove I'm not a shitty person anymore." But he didn't, he waited for her wedding, didn't even meet OP's fiancé (now husband), didn't even care who she ended up with. Like, why wait until the wedding unless it's to show how wonderful you are as a person and trying to guilt-trip OP and her fiancé's big day, for himself, and to get what he wanted? © HappyGothKitty / Reddit
• Your wedding is neither the time nor the place to have that reconciliation. My thought would be he wanted to be there for perception's sake, to make him look better in the family. © SadFlatworm1436 / Reddit
• All she has to reply to anyone who tries to convince her is "It's far too little and nearly ten YEARS too late" and leave it at that. © Damagedbeme / Reddit
• What person could raise a kid for 16 years and then cut them off? Not a person you need in your life. These posts come up a lot, honestly if I found out my kid was not biologically mine, my first thought would be abject terror that they might get taken away from me. You don't raise a kid and not think of them as yours. © tomtomclubthumb / Reddit

When a child is abandoned, the pain can stay with them for years. It's important for parents to be loving and attentive, and even when being honest, they should always be gentle and find special words. A child’s emotional well-being depends on how we treat them, especially in tough moments.