Starting a relationship at work can be tricky, mixing personal feelings with professional life. So the story of a young mother dealing with such challenges is a kind of proof. As she embraces the joy of having a newborn daughter, her boyfriend, filled with doubts, asks for a paternity test. What should be a happy time is darkened by mistrust, leaving her to question their trust, faithfulness, and the fragile bonds that hold relationships together.
My longtime boyfriend of 7.5 years and I just had our newborn daughter almost three weeks ago, and he is asking for a paternity test. We met at work. I’m a nurse, and he is a surgeon, and he is very dedicated to his job. So needless to say, he does work a lot. I currently am not working, so I stay home a lot, and he supports us.
Be very careful to ensure that the sample is not tampered with. Wouldn't surprise me if he's looking for a way out of the relationship and wants to make it so the child isn't his. Make sure it's taken somewhere he can't do anything with. He probably has "friends" who might help him fake the test.
Once the answer comes and proves he is the father, ask for sole custody and make him pay for his infidelity..
Throughout our relationship, I have been very faithful to him. He, however, has had a few slip-ups throughout our 7.5 years. Which I have forgiven him. He has told his OR staff that he asked for a paternity test, which upset me. He says they understand why I would be upset.
His rationale is that he doesn’t want to raise a child that he doesn’t know if it’s his 100%. He doesn’t want to find out later on down the road that she’s not his. Like he sees in movies. He just wants to be sure.
But then he goes on to say that I’m home all the time by myself since he’s never home, and he doesn’t know what I do for sure. Which definitely is a slap in the face to me, as I have been the one who has been faithful. If he wants to pay for the paternity test, then I’m fine with that. But am I wrong for being upset by how he’s trying to rationalize it and make me as if I’m the one who is unfaithful?
Cheating is a delicate topic that can bring a lot of pain and confusion. When trust is broken, the situation can become really dramatic, leading to hurt feelings, even shock, difficult conversations, and sometimes, the end of a relationship. It’s a subject that touches deep emotions and can be hard to handle for everyone involved.
