My Husband Wants Me to Shave My Head to Support His Mom in Her Cancer Journey

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Facing a loved one’s battle with cancer can be emotionally taxing, leading to a delicate balancing act between showing solidarity and maintaining one’s own comfort. In this tale, a wife struggles with the delicate question of shaving her head in support of her mother-in-law’s cancer treatment, while contending with her personal feelings and boundaries.

I would suggest buying her a wig and if I had long hair I would not cut it. Your husband is overbearing and needs to help his mother himself.


It’s evident that you’re navigating a difficult period in your life where your emotional health and your support for family are at odds. Let’s delve deeper into your story, addressing each aspect with care and attention.

Keep your Hair, BS Solidarity, kneel by her bed and pray with her. Hubby can get on his knees too. Just as a show of SOLIDARITY (FAITH AND HOPE)


First and foremost, we want to express my heartfelt sympathy for the challenging situation you find yourself in. Dealing with a loved one’s illness is never easy, and the complexities it brings to relationships can be overwhelming. Your husband’s request undoubtedly came from a place of deep concern and love for his mother, but it’s understandable that you’re feeling conflicted and hurt by the request.

Your feelings are valid, and it’s essential to recognize that there’s no right or wrong answer in a situation like this. Each person’s response to such a request will be unique, shaped by their individual experiences, beliefs, and comfort levels. While solidarity and support are crucial during difficult times, it’s equally important to maintain a sense of autonomy and respect for one’s own boundaries and choices.

Your reluctance to shave your head doesn’t diminish your love and support for your husband’s mother. There are numerous other ways to show your support and care, as you’ve suggested — helping with chores, preparing meals, offering emotional support — all of which are invaluable contributions during this challenging period.

It’s also essential to address the dynamics within your relationship. Your husband’s reaction, while undoubtedly fueled by stress and worry, was unfair and hurtful. No one should be pressured or guilt-tripped into making such a significant decision about their appearance, especially under emotionally charged circumstances.

Communication is key in resolving conflicts and finding common ground. It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your husband, expressing your feelings, concerns, and willingness to support his mother in ways that feel authentic to you. Likewise, encouraging him to share his thoughts and emotions can foster understanding and empathy between both of you.

Ultimately, the decision whether or not to shave your head should be yours and yours alone. It’s a deeply personal choice that reflects your identity, self-expression, and comfort level. You are not selfish for prioritizing your feelings and boundaries, nor are you wrong for refusing a request that feels uncomfortable or unreasonable to you.

In navigating this situation, remember to be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to feel conflicted, and it’s okay to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or even a professional counselor if needed. Your well-being matters just as much as anyone else’s, and finding a balance between supporting your loved ones and honoring your own needs is essential for your overall happiness and fulfillment.

Take care, and may you find the strength and clarity you need to navigate this challenging time with grace and resilience.

As we explore the emotional complexities of balancing self-care and family support, it’s a stark reminder that life can throw unexpected curveballs. Join us in our next story, where Khloé Kardashian uncovers the depth of her skin cancer scare, sharing her experience in a raw and honest account.

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