I Revealed a Harsh Truth About My Husband After He Died

Losing a loved one is an immense loss that’s hard to bear. But this woman faced an even greater turmoil: after her husband’s death, she uncovered a truth about him that she wished she had never known.

She explained what happened.

My husband passed away almost three years ago, leaving me a solo mom of an 8-year-old. I’ve learned a lot about who he really was since then. Let’s just say that if he were alive, we wouldn’t still be married.

About six weeks ago, a process server showed up trying to serve him with a court order to submit DNA for a kid. I gave him a copy of the death certificate and sent him on his way.

Shortly after that, a woman showed up on my doorstep saying that the kid she had with her was my late husband’s child. Is it? I don’t know and I don’t care. It kind of looks like him, but also looks young enough that they would have had to have been conceived very, very shortly before his death.

I told her that he was gone and where she could find his grave. She almost immediately started demanding “her half” of his estate. I laughed and told her that half of nothing was nothing, and she was welcome to that.

Where I’ve been informed that I might be a jerk is that while it’s true there was no estate, there were assets that passed outside of probate. One of those assets was a rental property that his parents gave us years ago, deeded with him and me as joint tenants with rights of survivorship. In short, it became mine when he died.

I’ve already sold it and that will be the money that sends my kid to college. Legally, I’m good (already talked to my attorney about this). While I feel bad for this child, I also have a child of my own to look out for.

People stood on her side.

• The gall of this woman to show up at your door. “I slept with your husband and had his baby, and now you must give me money.” Too bad for the kid, but she’s reaping what she sowed. Do NOT lose sleep over this. © churchofdan / Reddit
• Don’t even give a second of thought about this again. Just tell yourself, “It was just a scam”. And never talk to that person again, get a restraining order if it comes to it. Having said that, if you ever are served with papers (i.e. an actual lawsuit has been filed) then lawyer up immediately and vigorously defend yourself. © Apprehensive-Care20z / Reddit
• Unless she has a way to prove paternity, you have ZERO obligations to her or her affair baby. Even if he is, the rental property was in your name, so it was not your husband’s to give away. Remember, she chose to wreck your house. I would not open the door for her. © mi_nombre_es_ricardo / Reddit
• The house belonged to the two of you. It wasn’t left to his children. Ethically, you are in the clear here. There’s no estate, what passed legally to you outside of probate is yours. Her situation is sad, but it is what it is. Don’t have children with married men, unless you are the one he’s married to. © Diasies_inMyHair / Reddit

• That money belongs to you to do with as you wish. While your plan might be to use that money to send your child to school, in the event of some financial crisis you might need that money to stay afloat and put a roof over your head. While the child has no fault in any of this, he or she is not your responsibility. His mother took risks, had an affair with a married man, and now she’s suffering the consequences. It will be her responsibility to be a single parent and provide for her child. © Glinda-The-Witch / Reddit
• I try to be a pretty empathetic person. But I don’t think this has any relationship to you. Also, for what it’s worth, I probably wouldn’t answer the door for strangers in general. I’d get a door cam and let them leave a note or something. There’s no stranger in the world important enough who needs to come to my door who can’t just call and leave a voicemail. © AdventAnima / Reddit
• Send her a cease and desist and never have any contact with her again. You said the kid had to have been conceived shortly before he died which means she knew for most of her pregnancy she was having a baby with a dead man (if it’s even true) she’s a scammer it’s really not your problem if your ex (how I’ll refer to him) left an unknown child behind. © Illustrious_Bird9234 / Reddit

Here’s another story from a woman who also became a widow. However, life threw her such an unexpected twist that you couldn’t make it up if you tried.