I Want To Buy My Own House, but I Don’t Want My Husband To Have Any Rights to It

10 months ago

Building harmonious relationships in marriage is challenging, and it becomes even more complex when financial disagreements arise. Our reader reached out to us for help: she is planning to buy a house, but doesn’t want her husband to be a co-owner.

Meera Bakshi

5 days ago

I agree with Shine OnYou, Aino Sandell Bredtved. Yes, you worked hard and you do deserve your dignity owning your own home and he never wanted his OWN HOME why he is now trying to be co-owner of the house that you are buying? Totally selfish attitude. Go girl, I am proud of you that you are almost there achieving your dream home! Wish you all the best.

We decided to find out what our readers think about the situation. Many of them advised the woman to divorce her husband:

Ron Harrell

week ago

get rid of him, get your house -- no co-ownership, he has one choice, take it or leave it (you would be best off if you just kick him out, otherwise he will I haven't a doubt, be nothing but trouble and grief for you - but if you must, make sure he follows "YOUR" prenup agreement to the letter --make sure, through your attorney there will be absolutely no way he can ever lay hands on anything even close to ownership, and if he ever tries to pull a conservetorship odeal on you, it means you will automatically file for divorce and freeze him out of any joint financial things you may have even inadvertently entered into with him. This is dangerous territory for you as far as he & his family are concerned --- never trust either of them, and make sure if it comes to a break up, you make a solid clean, clear from all entanglements with him or his family !!! Be very very careful !!!

Her husband needs to grow up. It sounds like he is a spoiled child who as an adult relies on his parents. He does not act like your husband at all, move on and make your dream come true without him. © Jana Zita / Facebook
He made you sign a prenup, keeping finances separate. Now he wants to be part of your money but you can’t be a part of his. © Rae Taylor / Facebook
It is difficult to suggest the correct path to take when discussing this problem with a stranger- perhaps therapy can solve his problem or it may be that his irresponsibility and mean spirit will prevail. Be prepared to go it alone if necessary and do not be afraid to choose the correct path. There are worse things than living alone. © Beverley Stevens / Facebook
You lived with his parents because he didn’t want to leave his family home, not getting you are his family but that didn’t matter then. I’d divorce and run, what kind of father would he be? He’d take kids to his parents and leave you in a second. What’ll happen once his parents pass on, he’ll divorce you because he’ll have their house and money, so now or later? © Mary E Ward / Facebook
She didn’t mention if kids are involved. If no kids, sounds like an entitled kid that grew up to be an adult. If there was a prenup keep your money separate. He doesn’t get to leech off the parents and then you to. It sounds like he is basically saying is he doesn’t want to leave the comfort of where his parents do everything for him to live solely with you unless you take over the parenting role and take care of him. Seems like you see the writing on the wall. You got into something that you should have never accepted to begin with. Why not just go get the house on your own and lay ground rules for what has to change for him to come along? Likely he will just stay with his parents anyways rather than grow up and mature to be an equal partner in life. © Joel Owens / Facebook

Perhaps our reader will be able to avoid divorce and find a compromise with her husband. And maybe the husband will finally mature and take on responsibilities.