I Am Secretly Happy That My Sister Is Infertile, Real Reason Lies Deep in the Past

A woman wrote to us with a powerful, bittersweet family story that left us with mixed emotions. Her relationship with her sister has been filled with rivalry, betrayal, and resentment. When she recently learned that her sister was struggling with infertility, instead of sympathy, she felt a surge of joy. How did their bond unravel so completely? Let’s dive into this intense story of sibling rivalry and the surprising twist that followed.

The relationship between the two sisters has been tough since childhood.

A woman named Sarah reached out to share her heartbreaking story about her relationship with her older sister, Lisa. Sarah, now 26, explained that she has never felt any love for Lisa, who is two years older than her.

She explained: “I’m 26 now, and Lisa is 28, but I’ve never really felt any love for her. For as long as I can remember, she turned everything between us into a competition, like she needed to prove she was better than me in every way.

Growing up, it felt like Lisa resented me just for existing. She always seemed to need all the attention and couldn’t stand to let me have anything of my own. When I started learning piano, Lisa picked up piano too, determined to be better at it. When I excelled in a school subject, she’d suddenly become an expert in it too. If I had a crush, she would somehow end up dating him within days.”

Sarah always felt out of place because of her older sister.

Sarah continued: “I told my parents many times about what she was doing, hoping they would understand. But every time, they dismissed me, saying that ‘siblings copy each other’ and that I shouldn’t stop her from doing what she wanted. But Lisa wasn’t just copying me — she was always trying to outshine me. She kept a close eye on my activities, my friends, even my clothes, always trying to go one step further.

What hurt even more was how our parents seemed to favor her in everything. Even if I started something first, Lisa was the one praised for doing it ‘better.’ They would always find time to attend her dance recitals, but they hardly ever showed up for mine, saying they were ‘busy’ or had other plans.

Lisa used that favoritism to her advantage. Around my parents, she was sweet as honey, but when we were alone, her true feelings came out. She told me she hated me, that I’d always be in second place. At school, she took it even further — tripping me, throwing things, and humiliating me almost every day.

The school staff eventually noticed and even threatened her with suspension. But every time, my parents defended her, saying it was ‘just sisterly bickering.’ But for me, it wasn’t normal; it felt like Lisa was on a mission to make my life miserable, and my parents’ excuses only made it worse.

Her lies about me at school left me isolated. I couldn’t make friends because of the bad reputation she’d created for me, so I only made friends with people from other areas where her lies hadn’t reached. She even ruined my relationships, telling my boyfriends that I was a terrible person obsessed with copying her.”

Lisa is now living through the worst times of her life, but Sarah doesn’t feel sorry for her.

Woman revealed a heart wrecking truth: “Now, I’ve finally built my own life. I’m married to a wonderful man, and we have three beautiful children. But on my wedding day, not a single person from my family showed up, and they didn’t even congratulate me. My parents haven’t tried to meet their grandchildren either, not once in all these years.

Meanwhile, Lisa is married to a man who was once my boyfriend. She’s posted a lot recently about her struggles with infertility, saying how heartbroken she is that our parents may never get to hold her ‘first grandchild.’

Honestly, I don’t feel sorry for her. Part of me is happy she won’t have a child. After years of tormenting me, I can’t imagine her being any kinder to a child — especially if it were a daughter. It’s a hard thing to admit, but I feel no sympathy or obligation. My parents always chose her over me, even mourning her miscarriage more than they’ve ever acknowledged my children. My kids still ask why they only have one set of grandparents.

I’m not going to comfort Lisa after everything she put me through. Maybe this experience will finally teach her some empathy. But for once, I’m not the one left hurting.”

We advise Sarah to still try to support her sister.

We’re very grateful to Sarah for her trust and sharing her story with us. As difficult as it seems, we’d advise Sarah to still show some kindness and understanding to her sister Lisa. It may seem almost impossible, provided that Lisa was actually a person who ruined Sarah’s childhood, but we’d advise Sarah to have a talk with Lisa.

It doesn’t mean that she must totally forget about everything that her older sister did to her, but Sarah might feel better in her heart if she appeared more kind and sympathetic than her sister. Sometimes, it’s not necessary to copy someone’s bad deeds and seek revenge. Showing some kindness to your offender might teach them even a better lesson than mirroring their own bad deeds.

Sisters don’t always get along, and their relationship can be challenging. But to keep their family bond strong, it’s important for them to be open and honest with each other. Talking about their feelings and solving problems together can help them stay close, even when things are hard.